Hi Eimhin,

I'm so sorry to read about what you and your husband are going through. I can only imagine how incredibly tough this must be. These situations are so hard not only for the individual affected but sometimes just as much to loved ones around them.

I'm sure you're doing everything you can. It's really important that you can look after yourself as well as your husband - so if you aren't able to talk about certain things with him, make sure you have others around you who you can open up to. This could be other family or friends, or us here on this forum. We're always here for support, even if it's just a case of getting some things off your chest.

Do your best for your husband but as I say take time for yourself too, and get any support that you are able to.

Wishing you all the best,

Ben
Cancer Chat Moderator

Hello ElmHin, firstly what a lovely photo of you borh it's nice to see who I'm replying to.  So I know how you feel as my husband has incurable lung cancer diagnosed 2017, now spread to liver and stomach Wall, he is 74 and now receiving palliative immunotherapy.  Why don't you join my thread that I've written for three years and you can vent on there or tell us how you feel.  We do get down as we are left coping with everything and that's hard.  We haven't seen family for months but have taken lovely rides out if we could and had friends round in the garden.  We are careful but Norman is of the opinion that he will live how he wants and I think the government guidelines are different if you are terminal so you don't feel trapped.  I try and speak to friends regularly, face time when I can and keep a smile on my face for him as it is him who will suffer.  Please join me and we can uplift you if you're having a bad day.  Many kind regards, Carol x 

thank you. M