Hi...its such a scary time for you right now...iv just lost my husband of 32yrs to bowel and stomach cancer. The stage you're at now is the hardest part. It's not easy having to watch someone we love so dearly deteriorate in front of us and know we cant do a thing to make them better. All you can do is keep him as comfortable as possible. Let him know daily how much you love him ...talk to him about anything and everything...doesnt matter what. As long as you spend time together. When those panicky times hit you go for a walk...breathe deeply and slowly....make a cup of tea. I found great comfort in playing games on my tablet or phone to keep my mind busy. If you dont feel like answering the phone...dont...if you want to scream and rant with anger....do it..speak to your gp and your husbands medical team about your worries and how you're feeling  . Remember they're there for you too. Xxx

Hi Laura Jane, I was in thee same frame of mind with my husband who has incurable lung cancer and after chemo and radiotherapy he slept a lot, ate very little and seemed to be deteriorating, he was 71 years old.  But he is now 74 and on immunotherapy treatment to keep him stable, so your husband could just be suffering the after effects of treatment.  I let mine sleep, fed him when he was hungry, encouraging him to get his energy back.  He also had anaemia and had a blood transfusion, so ask to have his bloods checked to see if he is the same.  Don't give up, I have fought every inch of the way and he is still here with his daughters and grandchilden.  Be pro active, ring his McMillan nurse and ask questions, they are a big help.  Try and stay positive for you both.  All my very best wishes to you both, Carol x 

Thank you so much xxx