The only advice I can give is from my own personal experience, if you get a chance read mine and other poor souls posts.The one thing is to never say are the cliche’s that people have said to me , honestly the rubbish that that have come out with , for example one lad said to me “well at least look on the bright side Andreas out of pain now “ oh thanks for that, really! . Sounds like your doing a great job anyway being there supporting your partner with love and someone to lean against.Times are going to be tough as their emotions come through when the dark days arrive, which unfortunately they will. But your doing brilliant the both of you x be there for each other and whoever else needs a hand x love goes out to yous xx