Sorry for what you are going through, your daughter sounds quite young, especially as young child is in the picture 

Although the Hospice can NOT discuss your daughter case with you without permission, perhaps its time to chat to the Hospice about what you think is happening and how you feel.

Sometimes Hospices have ongoing support groups in places for families, to allow for increased understanding of the range of emotional involved.

Use the forum for support for youself at this difficult time.

Best Wishes 

Tom   

Thanks Tom. She is actually in her 30s. Far too young to face this death sentence 

I Must admit that I have considered using hospice councellor to help me face this problem 

Hi there ...

Just a thought , but if she doesn't want to see her child too. . . It just maybe she's not strong enough to see you both ... as someone with cancer, I can so understand that ... it is hard for us to get our heads round things ... so I cannot imagine how hard this is on her ...

Maybe you could write a letter, to say you will do as she wishes, but you want her to know how much you love her .. and if ever she does want to see you .. youll be there ....her daughter may need you now ... as she's loosing a mum ... so you could give her some comfort giving her a big nanny hug ... I know my grandkids mean the world to me ... and I'm sure your daughter would love to know her daughter has a hand to hold ..  a letter can say so much ... and esp if it's filled with love ...

As parents we have to love our kids unconditionally... they didn't ask to be born ... so we must allow them to do things their way ..  so from one mum and nan to another ... I'm sending you a vertual hug.... Chrissie x

Hi chriss. 

Thankyou for your reply and I will take on board your suggestion. My grandchild is an adorable little boy who weve spent a lot of time with but being as his mum and dad have split he is at his dads at the moment. This isnt a problem as we keep in touch but cant actually hug him at the moment due to corona virus. Yes it must be so hard for her to cope with all this. You say we love our kids unconditionally and I agree.