I am not really sure how to start or what to write. It seems almost silly to be seeking out advice when i'm not the one who even has cancer. I am in my twenties and my dad was diagnosed with Oesophageal cancer at the start of Febuary. In march we were told that it has also spread to his spine. He has done a round of chemo and radiotherpy, and is on a break before another round of radiotherapy starts on his secondary cancer. At the moment its good days and bad days with him. On his good days we get a glimer of my old dad back... holding a conversation, maybe cracking a joke, and sitting outside with us. On his bad days though he's in a lot of pain, feeling unwell, and is really emotional. I find it hard to know what to say to him. His life is currently consumed by cancer so every other topic doesnt seem relevant. I dont want to constantly remind him of how he's feeling and his cancer by talking to him about it but then i dont want to just sit and pretend like he's not going through what he is. I was talking to him the other day about how he was feeling and he started to cry and walked out of the room. I felt so guilty. Even though my mum told me he got upset because he cant hide how much pain hes in now. I would do anything to make him feel better or comforted but i just dont know what the right thing to say or do is.
