I am so sorry - you are still so young and with 2 little ones. I'm not sure if i'll be much help but in a similarish situation. My absolute best friend since i was 11 (now 46) was diagnosed 18 months ago with terminal bowel cancer spread to groin lymph and liver. It's now also in her lungs and bones. She initially did quite well on chemo - the tumours practically disappeared in all areas apart from her liver which i think is what they worry about the most. However - within a few months of chemo ending they returned plus the second lot of chemo plus radiotherapy did nothing. Last ditch attempt is immunotherapy but she has had 3 sessions and is really poorly. I fear she only has a very short time left unless a miracle happens - her stomach is swollen, she is nauseous, fatigued, in pain and now on morphine. Tbh she looked shocking when diagnosed but she's felt quite well in herself until  recently. I live a long way away and at first i was frantic - i never thought i'd be able to accept it because i've literally grown up with her but i do feel i've reached a state of sad acceptance although i keep trying to prepare myself for the inevitable. Some people however can live a good few years past their life expectancy so am hoping your mum does well on chemo.

Hello Jem m

So sorry to hear this. I know the feeling if helplessness. My husband of 48 years has been fighting stage 4 colon cancer. Cancer now returned for 3rd time.   I have only just started out on this forum.   I was feeling overwhelmed as having to deal with 2 different hospitals.  Pallaitive have stepped in now and feel I can talk to them.  I feel like I am on a runaway train and can't change the outcome.   I was given adviceJust deal with today don't think about the future. If this thoughts come into my head I physically push them away. Try to keep in the present and tell you mum you live her every day .