Welcome to Cancer Chat Piggypanda although I'm sorry for the reason you're posting.

You'll find many of our members have also been in this difficult position so will know what you're going through at the moment so I'm sure some of them will be along soon to offer their support and advice but if you'd like to talk things through with one of our cancer nurses you can do so by calling 0808 800 4040, Monday - Friday between 9a.m - 5p.m. 

Kind regards,

Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

Hi piggy could you take them out places change of scenery something to occupy the mind and if possible the body. I've been on palliative care since February 2016 and ive found getting out can make a big difference even going shopping for an hour. Hope you can keep them occupied and well done even thinking about trying to help your definitely a good friend.

Billy 

Hi Billy.  Thanks for your reply.

Sadly, he doesn't want to go out, and even tries to avoid seeing us when we visit ( we are close family).  We are so worried, because he's been given a terminal diagnosis that he's given up already.  We've pointed out he still has  a lot to live for but it's falling on deaf ears.  He's even getting chemo to see if it shrinks the cancer but he's not eating and is losing weight.  I know I'm not in his position and have no clue how I would be if I was, but it's hard to watch.   We will just keep being here for him and try our best to help him through this as much as we can. 

Thank you for sharing your story and I wish you all the best . Xx 

Hi piggy so sorry he's given up, is there nothing he considers worth fighting for. It seems such a shame. 

I was diagnosed Feb 2016 prostate gone to lymph nodes, spine, ribs, pelvis and a lung. On permanent hormone therapy and cemotherapy when neaded. Like i said earlier palliative care just to keep me alive been living normal life working till had to retire to look after my disabled wife she needs 24 /7 care she has Alzheimers and parkinsons. He kneeds something to work towards anything??

I promised my darling wife I'd look after her when she got old she's nearly 14years older than me, or she wouldn't have married me, been married over 4 7 years happy years i might ad.. Show him this if you want to. If i hadn't fought i could have died four years ago that's the difference and I've got alot more years to go.. Good luck and best wishes for the future for you all keep fighting...

Billy xx 

Thank you so much for your kind words Billy.  Its absolutely inspirational to read such "good" stories of fighting to stay alive and winning!  He has 2 young kids and we are trying to get him to fight for them if nothing else.  We are hoping this is just a blip.....from shock.....and hoping that his next scan in a month gives him some positive news to somehow get his head in the right place.  I think all of the stuff that's happened so far from the  nursing side and support from Macmillan has all bee geared towards preparing for his death so it's a hard pill to swallow.  

We will keep by his side and keep telling him positive stories like yours to show him that that stats aren't always correct!!!  Keeping my fingers crossed we can help him live as long and happy as we can.

Thank you very much for your help. Xx