Supporting my husband a year on after Prostate

My husband of over 20 yrs has been through cancer three times, he had a cancerous mole removed in his late teens, diagnosed with thyroid cancer in his early 40's and when he was 48 he was diagnosed with prostate.   Early last year we went through decision making process of what treatment to opt for to treat the prostate cancer and went for radioactive seeds (Brachytherapy).  We've always been very close but now a year on he's very detached and questioning lots of things including being married to me, asking is this as good as life gets.  I'm trying to support him as best l can and have suggested lots of things including talking to his Dr about his low mood, family counselling etc. but he's not open to anything and we seem to be in a state of limbo. I know as a family we've been through a sustained low period and I think having prostate at a younger age has been the final straw.  Does anyone have any advice on what l should say or do next?

  • Hi HelenCa don't know if it'll help, have you both been out anywhere lately, New scenery maybe a meal out.., i can understand him being down. I've prostate Cancer gone to lymph nodes, spine, ribs, pelvis and a lung, on palliative care since February 2016. I'm also looking after my disabled wife she needs 24 /7 care she has Alzheimers and parkinsons. Hopefully we're go out somewhere nice this summer,. Hardly out of the house for years apart from appointment or bit of shopping. Hope you can find something. Best wishes for the future....

    Billy 

  • Hi Helen

    ypu mention about your husband having brachotherapy but may I asl if he is also on hormone therapy?  This treatment can bring about low moods as I was treatedwith this my self although i was never low, I did have mood swings where for just the slightest thing, suddenly I would have tears in my eyes. I found this very embarassing but it was purley a side effect of the treatment

    Hop things turn out okay. Kind regards, Brian