My friend has a few months left

My best friend had cervical cancer that has spread.. She has had chemotherapy twice and radiotherapy and operations.. After a long long battle she has been told (today) that she has a few months to Live.. She has been full of hope and ideas on how to beat this but today after being told with such conviction she now knows and so do i that she doesn't have long.. I have broke my heart and I will continue to do so but i need help.. I need to know what to say and do to help.. She said 'please look after my kids and promise they will be looked after' This goes without saying.. What I'm wondering is what I do from here.. Do I go ahead and buy the journal of memories that she fills in so her kids have all the info about her? Do I go ahead and get a hand cast of her and her husband and kids on order? Do I offer to take some professional pics of them all together? Do I suggest she does she video messages, letters and life lessons down on paper for her kids? Or is this all stupid? This is what I would do but I'm weird!! I don't have long to fix anything I might do wrong so I need to get it right.. Any help would be so appreciated xxx

 

 

  • Hi there ..

    Wow what an amazingly caring friend you are ... there's no right or wrong way ... everyone is different .. and you know your friend far better then we could know ... maybe take things gently ... dropping in one thought lightly and see how she feels ... 

    She may want to do all that .. or she may need time to let it all sink in ... so one little bit at a time .. even though you feel time is so limited... try taking each day as it comes .. letting her take the lead ... she will probly have highs and lows without warning ... but if she knows it's o.k ... to feel everything ... 

    Talk to her husband ... it's o.k for you all to show feelings ... and admit it's scary ... you still have time to make memories... there could be something she still wants to do ... 

    My heart goes out to you all ... Chrissie x

  • Hi as crissie says your friends so lucky to have might i suggest that you be honest to her loosing a loved one dosnt come wit a handbook .have a word with your friends husband all you can do is listen and be there i lost my partner in my case it was so quick take some phone photoes of you and her and her with her family it will be a delicate situation and all that is not realy going to make the situation better with photografers etc but ask her to maybe do a diary about the kids mum nice memories of the past of caurse its what i would have done given the chance .bless you. paul