Hi,

Sorry to hear about your mums recent diagnosis.

I'm seeing my 72 yo mum for the first time tomorrow at hospital since she was diagnosed with stage 4 secondary bc. We found out day after Boxing Day. Totally stunned and didn't know how to react like you. My emotions were all over the place. I kinda went foggy and couldn't focus on a particular task without thinking about Mum. Sleeping was very hard at first as all you think about is Mum and what the future holds.

I found that talking to close and loved ones helped although it was emotional. Work should support you through these times. Telling my 15 yo daughter was bloody awful.
 

Local to me there is a cancer charity that helps with support in these circumstances. They can offer you emotional and practical support along with counselling. Although it may seem very raw, talk and it will get easier I promise. Maybe worth having a quick look to see if there are any services local to you if the home support is not there. 
 

don't bottle it up it makes you worse. Let it out. There is no wrong or right way to react but please look after yourself, your Mum, dad and your son. It's gonna be tough. Maybe a moderator from the forum can point you in the right direction. 
Keep smiling and stay strong for your mum.

Happy to chat

Roger

Hi Roger I'm sorry to hear about your mum. What a horrible time for you all. I do hope your mum is as comfortable as possible. It's unbearable to think of them suffering and that really scares me. 
 

I do have lots of people looking out for me. I will look for a support group, thank you. Wishing you all the best.

Dawn