Hi, as you know I am going thru this too and I do feel your pain. My two girls are 8 and 12 and this week I had to tell them the treatment hasn't worked and the Dr's say we only have a few weeks left with him, how do we survive this, I am a mess, stressed to the max and can't eat or sleep, he is 44 and now there is no chance he will make 45. How do we get ourselves,  our children and our darling husband's thru this without a breakdown. Can't see any light at the end of the tunnel now only dark, I have sent you a friend request so we can talk more together if u want to, I only feel understood by others suffering it too st the moment. Anyone else in similar situation please send friend request so we can support each other. We are hoping to bring him home from hospital today and then be under home care from the hospice, he is still on immense pain and can hardly walk, certainly can't do the things he loves like mountain biking with his daughter. One thing I have found is stop looking at Facebook.  it does u no good to see other people obliviously posting stuff about their frivolous lives when ours are ending,  sending hugs to anyone out there suffering too

Oh my goodness, what an ordeal you are all dealing with right now. I’ve accepted your friend request but not sure what to do now - do we just message privately? And what is your name?

im so sorry the treatment hasn’t worked. It’s utter *** isn’t it? How are your children reacting to the news? And how are you keeping strong in the face of such adversity? And how is your husband? Is he frightened, angry etc? You will get through this though - you and your girls will get through this. I promise. You are strong. I know how you feel completely. Some weeks I think I can handle it, in fact one of my biggest therapies is vigorous exercise. For those brief moments when I’m running or working out I feel invincible. It doesn’t last though of course and then I feel so truly overwhelmed, like I’m losing my mind. I worry the kids will get taken away from me and I’ll be hospitalised. But we have no choice. We have to do this for our husbands and kids. I fear for the kids the most - I want them to be as nurtured and protected despite all this as possible. 

Did you and your husband receive good care in the hospital? Are you and the girls getting support? I for one don’t think I get any emotional support, other than from friends. And are the hospice good? Will you try and keep him at home?

we had an awful week 2 weeks ago. Will had an infection so had to stay in hospital, came home utterly depressed as he hates hospitals, saw his oncologist looking for some hope regarding alternative treatments- we were even willing to go abroad if Will was well enough, but it appears there’s nothing and reading between the lines we should focus on spending more quality time as a family. We then went to visit a natural burial site. I completely lost it at that point and then later that day my husband was in floods of tears - he is so frightened. The kids don’t know much yet other than that Will has medicine, has a poorly back and sees the doctor regularly. It breaks my heart that Elliott, at 14 months old, won’t even remember him. 

Mon Tuesday this week we have his latest scan results. Yay!! Another likely “I’m so sorry” meeting. 

You take care of everyone (especially yourself) as best you can. Think positive strong thoughts. I know this doesn’t always work but try to replace “I can’t do this” with “I can do this” or “I am willing”. 

Love to you all xxx

Oh my goodness, what an ordeal you are all dealing with right now. I’ve accepted your friend request but not sure what to do now - do we just message privately? And what is your name?

im so sorry the treatment hasn’t worked. It’s utter *** isn’t it? How are your children reacting to the news? And how are you keeping strong in the face of such adversity? And how is your husband? Is he frightened, angry etc? You will get through this though - you and your girls will get through this. I promise. You are strong. I know how you feel completely. Some weeks I think I can handle it, in fact one of my biggest therapies is vigorous exercise. For those brief moments when I’m running or working out I feel invincible. It doesn’t last though of course and then I feel so truly overwhelmed, like I’m losing my mind. I worry the kids will get taken away from me and I’ll be hospitalised. But we have no choice. We have to do this for our husbands and kids. I fear for the kids the most - I want them to be as nurtured and protected despite all this as possible. 

Did you and your husband receive good care in the hospital? Are you and the girls getting support? I for one don’t think I get any emotional support, other than from friends. And are the hospice good? Will you try and keep him at home?

we had an awful week 2 weeks ago. Will had an infection so had to stay in hospital, came home utterly depressed as he hates hospitals, saw his oncologist looking for some hope regarding alternative treatments- we were even willing to go abroad if Will was well enough, but it appears there’s nothing and reading between the lines we should focus on spending more quality time as a family. We then went to visit a natural burial site. I completely lost it at that point and then later that day my husband was in floods of tears - he is so frightened. The kids don’t know much yet other than that Will has medicine, has a poorly back and sees the doctor regularly. It breaks my heart that Elliott, at 14 months old, won’t even remember him. 

Mon Tuesday this week we have his latest scan results. Yay!! Another likely “I’m so sorry” meeting. 

You take care of everyone (especially yourself) as best you can. Think positive strong thoughts. I know this doesn’t always work but try to replace “I can’t do this” with “I can do this” or “I am willing”. 

Love to you all xxx

Hi, I have sent you a private message, hope you find it ok!  If not I can tell you how to access it!  Tom is home now and under hospice care, they are just doing pain relief now.... depressing

So sorry to hear I have pancreatic neuroendocrine tumor  but at the moment just grade 1  slow growing but could change  but also have another cancer mutiple myeloma no cure come back 3rd time can only keep it at bay for so long 

But my thoughts to you and your good sir and family xxxx