Hi there ...

Bless ya .. I can so empathise .. and give Marie Currie a ring... go to their home page ... they help people with terminal diagnosis and their families.... see the ways they can help .. and I'm sure they will listen and know from others in the same situation .. and may be able to help you ... sometimes getting your G P or health visitor to refur you .. but deff give them a ring ...

Now this is only my point of view ... but as someone going on my cancer journey... I think the reason people get angry and take it out on loved ones is the cancer .. but it's NOT an excuse to take it out on you .. when you have a job and kids to look after ... I can't imagine how hard it must be for you ...

I would walk away when he's being crule .. and go somewhere to get out of the situation .. no mater how guilty he makes you feel .. let him know you'll be there if he treats you fairly... if you do that every time, he will soon learn nastiness gets him no where ... start to care for you .. if you crumble , everything crumbles ... 

Let us know how it goes ... sending a vertual hug ... Chrissie xx

Hi blondie, i honestly don't know why people go nasty but chrissie has the right I'dea if he's being nasty go out somewhere let him think about it. Personally I'm uncurable was diagnosed Feb 2016 I'd never think of being like that with my wife, and i can't figure out why some are like that anyway good luck with your future and remember to look after yourself.........my treatment is classed as palliative care.

Billy 

Hi,

I pray that you're doing well and hopefully things look up soon, I don't know what to say about your situation. My mum if suffering cancer and I can honestly notice a change in her attitude - she always argues with my dad now which she never did before because she was so patient and calm - if that helps explain his anger.

dont let it affect you too much, I imagine it can get really hard when you have a young family to care for along with an ill spouse, just turn to loved ones or friends for help when you need so you can take some time out for yourself. (It may seem impossible right now and a big ask of someone but I feel it will help you immensely) 

Try not to lose yourself through this tough time  

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