Colon Cancer - palliative care

Hi all,

 

I have been reading through the forums but haven't really found what i'm searching for...

 

My dad was diagnosed with Colon Cancer and told there were no operations/treatments available to him as the cancer has spread to parts of his abdomin and lungs.

 

My family were destroyed by this sudden news. My dad is 78 and has always kept good health, a bricklayer by trade, he was active and didn't drink excessivly or smoke. His diet has always been a bit questionable  but blood pressure etc. always fine. 

 

They offered my dad palliative chemotherapy and he has agreed to take this over the next 3 or 4 months. It is two different chemo drugs. He has just finished his first go and apart from being very tired/lethargic and going back to bed in the afternoons, it hasn't seemed to been too severe (touch wood). His next (second treatment of twelve) is on Friday. 

 

As a family, we are really concerned about the risk of infections now. We are taking lots of precautions and we are trying to get my dad to stay indoors, not do much until the end of the treatment in March/April. This is about three months from now.

 

My question is for anyone who has experience of this. Are we doing the right thing? Is my dad better to try the chemo and hope for some extended time and good quality living or should he sack the chemo and live out whatever time he may have left? If the chemo is a success, what would that mean? What is the success of it going well? Could he still be here in 2/3 years having had a good quality of life? 

 

I realise no-one knows these answers but if anyone has any direct experiences of this type, it might make us all able to make more informed choices and decisions on what we should do next.

 

As a point, my dad didnt really want to take chemo due to side effects etc, but it seems to have been kind on him so far. I feel if the side effects were worse, he would decide against any more. Would this be wise? Again, if anyone has experience of this, no matter how much I might not want to hear it, I would be really grateful to you.

 

Thanks,

Brian.

  • brio007 hi my problem is simular to your father, my cancer went from prostate to lymph nodes, spine, ribs, pelvis and a lung,. Was diagnosed Feb 2016 if i had not had cemotherapy i would have died end of 2016. I'm not curable just living with my uninvited guest been living a normal life no problems I'm 67 had to retire to look after my disabled wife she needs 24 /7 care, treatment doesn't always work but it's worth trying. Good luck with your father.......

    Billy 

    P.s hoping your Christmas goes well... Mine is classed as palliative care as well. 

  • Thanks Billy,

     

    I know everyone is different and everyone will respond differently etc but your words are exactly the shot I needed!

     

    Have a great Christmas!

  • Hi Brian 

    I have just had my 4th Cycle of palliative chemotherapy and my experience so far has been very positive. I have experienced very few side effects and my quality of life has improved greatly. I have been able to carry on doing all the things I enjoy throughout my treatment and I am generally enjoying life. 

    My advice to anyone facing palliative treatment would be to give it a go and see what happens. If you experience side effects you can always decide to stop and at least you know you gave it a go. 

    I hope you have a great christmas with your dad. Don't worry about treatment side effects and risk of infection just focus on having a good time and make the most of every moment you have together.

    All the best

    Georgina 

  • Thanks Georgina,

     

    Your advice is really appreciated!

     

    Merry Christmas to you and yours!