My dad age 78 has been diagnosed with metastatic renal cancer with extensive pelvic disease and hyercalcaema which causing confusion. Long story short he had an episode of aggression whilst staying in my care at my home as I had to relocate him to my home as he lived on his own 200 miles away with no one to care for him. He ended up in hospital as we had not had the urgent referral we needed for palliative care until 8weeks had passed dad had deteriorated a whole lot in this time despite me pleading for help from everyone st Peters hospice.,district nurses the doctor was the only one trying his best. Dad's confusion was so bad they put a doks order on him which devastated me as he is the gentlest man I know. I had hell to get him back home with me which has only really been fast tracked Because dad is at end of life... But I am grateful after 3 weeks in hospital he is home with me. I know I said I would cut a long story short.. I am sorry.

Anyway dad is at home and having a lot of oxycodone and is even more confused than ever sleeping and mumbling all the time. He can't walk and tries to get out of the hospital bed they sent him home in. I am scared to leave him and now sleep in the room with him as I am scared he will try to get out of bed and fall. I work full time. Dad has Ben home now a week and has seen the district nurse once the day after discharge.. I call them on the phone as dad is in so much pain and they tell me to up the dose which I do and then I have hell to pay with his hallucination and confusion all the time. I know he has been fast tracked home on the basis he is likely to live no more than 2 weeks but how do i tell the signs that he is nearing the end I am scared S he looks so strong but is so weak.