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Feeling like I am not doing enough

Bex31
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So the past 5 weeks have been crazy my dad was admitted to hospital where we found out he has cancer of the bowl and bladder he had a op to try and remove the cancer but they where unable due to location he has been fitted with a stoma bag which has prolapsed badly I can see how ill my dad is and he weight about 7 stone he looks so weak and frail and I do feel he will beat this because of his weight anyone any ideas of anything I can get him eating before he starts chemo to help him build up his weight I really hope this doesn't sound silly just feeling like I can't do enough for him atm he is a very lonely man and private my self and my 2 young children r all he really has so I am doing everything alone 

  • Hello Bex31

    Welcome to the forum although I'm sorry to hear about Dad's recent diagnosis and surgery. 

    Did the hospital give you/him any dietary advice before he came home?

    I know that quite a few of our members here have suggested in the past that small things such as using full fat milk and adding butter/cream to things can help with increasing calorie intake. If Dad can't face eating a meal then don't worry - little and often of something that he fancies can help with his appetite. 
    If he has been allocated a specialist nurse then it's certainly worth giving them a call for some advice. It may be that Dad would benefit from something such as Fortisip which I know some members here have also spoken about. 

    If you'd like to speak to one of our nurses for some support and advice then you can call them on 0808 800 4040, Monday to Friday 9am to 5pm. 

    I hope this helps

    Best wishes, 
    Jenn
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