Palliative Chemotherapy.

My father was diagnosed with stage four bowel cancer back in the summer of 2017. Chemotherapy and radiotherapy did nothing so they operated to remove his bowel, colon and bladder. A year later the cancer had spread to his liver. They were going to operate, but following another scan, they found further tumours in his lung and pelvis. 

The Oncologist explained that there is no cure other than palliative chemotherapy for the next three months, followed by another scan in Dec. 

I'm finding it hard to get a straight answer as to how long he might have left?  Also, is palliative chemotherapy really worth it? it is of course his decision and I will fully support him, but just wondered about other people's expriences? 

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  • Hi there ...

    It sure is a dilema... and the thing I've learned on here, is it's almost impossible to give a time frame .. as some hang in there far beond the time given .. others may go a lot quicker ... so they can only give an average .. but it's very rough idea ... 

    I've wanted to just take every day as a bonus .. and every day I wake up I say ... "yep still here" and make the most of that day .. as for palative chemo .. talk to your dad .. it may give him a tad longer .. if he wants to do it .. then go for it .. but if he's had enough of what chemo brings, and wants to be as well as he can, for as long as he can .. then like you've said .. tell him that's o.k  ... 

    You can make every day a memory day .. leave nothing unsaid... ask about his life ... how he felt the first time he saw you .. watch a movie .. go for coffee on good days .. make a lifetime of memories... in the time he has ... none of us cancer or not,  don't know if they have tomorrow... so admit your both scared .. share tears and feelings .. let him talk about what he wants later  .. find out while you can .. is there something he epwants to do .. or go .. that's what I'm doing .. 

    Sending you a vertual hug... Chrissie xx

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  • Hi there ...

    It sure is a dilema... and the thing I've learned on here, is it's almost impossible to give a time frame .. as some hang in there far beond the time given .. others may go a lot quicker ... so they can only give an average .. but it's very rough idea ... 

    I've wanted to just take every day as a bonus .. and every day I wake up I say ... "yep still here" and make the most of that day .. as for palative chemo .. talk to your dad .. it may give him a tad longer .. if he wants to do it .. then go for it .. but if he's had enough of what chemo brings, and wants to be as well as he can, for as long as he can .. then like you've said .. tell him that's o.k  ... 

    You can make every day a memory day .. leave nothing unsaid... ask about his life ... how he felt the first time he saw you .. watch a movie .. go for coffee on good days .. make a lifetime of memories... in the time he has ... none of us cancer or not,  don't know if they have tomorrow... so admit your both scared .. share tears and feelings .. let him talk about what he wants later  .. find out while you can .. is there something he epwants to do .. or go .. that's what I'm doing .. 

    Sending you a vertual hug... Chrissie xx

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