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Partner has shut me out after diagnosis

Mg76
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Hi,

My partner has only recently been diagnosed with breast cancer. She has chosen to up and leave our home and return to her parents, she just wont talk to me other than to say love you. I want to be with her through it all and come through it together. I feel like I have done something wrong to have her not talk to me about it and block me out. I just want to understand a bit better of how she is feeling and what I should do to be there for her. Any advice would be grateful as I have every emotion going through my head right now, i want to know what is best for me to do to be there for her through this.

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  • Hi Mg76, 

    Welcome to the forum although I'm sorry to hear about your partner's diagnosis. 

    Being told that you have cancer can lead to have all sorts of thoughts and feelings and it's not unheard of for people to push away those that they're closest too.

    We've some information on our website here about cancer and emotions which may be of interest. I'm also going to tag in some of our members [@Chriss]‍ [@Jolamine]‍ and [@Marlyn]‍  here who've had breast cancer in the hope that they'll be able to share some of their experiences around diagnosis. I hope you don't mind ladies! :) 

    I'm also going to suggest that you give our team of nurses a call. I'm sure that they will be able to help with information and support. You can call them on 0808 800 4040 (Monday to Friday 9am to 5pm). 

    I hope that things settle for you both soon. Just continue to let her know that you're there for her if she needs you and we'll do our best here to help you too. 

    Best wishes, 
    Jenn
    Cancer Chat moderator

     

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  • Hi Mg76, 

    Welcome to the forum although I'm sorry to hear about your partner's diagnosis. 

    Being told that you have cancer can lead to have all sorts of thoughts and feelings and it's not unheard of for people to push away those that they're closest too.

    We've some information on our website here about cancer and emotions which may be of interest. I'm also going to tag in some of our members [@Chriss]‍ [@Jolamine]‍ and [@Marlyn]‍  here who've had breast cancer in the hope that they'll be able to share some of their experiences around diagnosis. I hope you don't mind ladies! :) 

    I'm also going to suggest that you give our team of nurses a call. I'm sure that they will be able to help with information and support. You can call them on 0808 800 4040 (Monday to Friday 9am to 5pm). 

    I hope that things settle for you both soon. Just continue to let her know that you're there for her if she needs you and we'll do our best here to help you too. 

    Best wishes, 
    Jenn
    Cancer Chat moderator

     

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