Hi there ...

Cancer can make people angry and cranky ... but it's the reason ,not the excuse... no mater what someone has ... it gives them no right to treat anyone like that ... I wouldn't take it .. and if ever my cancer made me like that, I'd tell those I love to go and not stay around like that ...

There's 3 reasons that happens .. one is they love someone so much , they push them away to save that person going through it to ... two .. they really don't want you there .. as hard as that is ..it is possible .. or 3 they don't realise what they are doing ... 

But either way .. it will crucify you staying there .. I'd deff move out , give that person space and tell them, when they stop being so nasty,  you'll talk ... please don't take that ... if you give him space you'll find out if he really cares or not .. cancer is not an excuse.... but it is the reason ...no one should be a punch bag for someone else ..... Chrissie x

Hello 

You have received a lovely reply from our Chriss but I just wanted to say I am so sorry you are being treated like this you clearly don't deserve it. It is common to want to look for ways to numb the pain as what you are going through is so tough, but as you probably know yourself drinking won't be a substitute for the support you desperately need at the moment. I think perhaps you could talk to your GP about what you are going through at the moment and the effect it has had on you, the fact it has made you drink more. Your doctor will probably have some advice to help you get through this difficult time or point you in the direction of resources that might help. 

You are one brave, loving and caring lady who clearly doesn't deserve this and we are all here for you anytime you need to talk. 

Lucie,  Cancer Chat Moderator 

My mums cancer and medication really changed her, she was pretty horrible to me for months and it really upset me. If I ever tried to defend myself it would cause a blazing row. She chucked me out her house once and she told people I said she was to go into a hospice so I could go on holiday which just wasn’t true, and now she’s dead. Cancer doesn’t give anyone the right to hurt the ones they love. Your partner needs told to stop it. You guys should be spending quality time together before it’s too late, I feel so bad for you :-(