Both parents diagnosed with cancer.

Hi, im just at a loss right now, im 34 and I don't know who to speak too. My mum was diagnosed with stage 4 breast cancer in March last year, we soon discovered she had secondary bone cancer in her pelvic, she started chemotherapy and after a good few months, she decided to stop treatment as it didnt agree with her. I totally respected her wish and will support her all the way. This week she's found lumps on head, and had a MRI to find out it had spread to her spine, she has now been referred to a hospice. My dad was diagnosed last September with stage 4 lung cancer, he also started treatment but unfortunately we've just found out it hasn't been working and the tumor had grown and now has taken over his whole lung. He looking very thin and frail with a blue tint, im so scared hes not gonna be around for much longer, I not sure really where im going with this but I just needed to tell someone. It so hard to cope right now, with both parents going down hill pretty fast, thank you for listening. 

  • Hi there ...

    Cancer sucks big time ... years ago we hardly ever heard of someone with cancer, it was so rare .. it's like it's exploding everywhere now .. and it doesn't who .. and touching both parents well I'm beond words ..

    I lost both my parents in my 30s ... so can empathise how much that really hurts ... I wish I had words to help, but words won't help right now ... I hope you find the strength to hold their hands and take each day separately... leave nothing unsaid ...  I lost my mum suddenly from a heart attack and had no chance to even say those things like I was so proud to be her daughter... what I'd give for just one day with her ..

    So as heartbraking as it is make the most of every day ... and remember you are them .. they both made you .. you will take them with you through your life... tucked up in your heart.... 

    Sending you a vertual hug...  Chrissie  

  • Hi Chrissie, 

    Sorry for the very delayed reply. I'm so sorry to hear about your parents .

    Just an update on my parents.

    Unfortunately my loving Dad passed away in October 19. I'm still very much heartbroken and miss him so much. I am glad I was with him all of the way right to the very end, so I did get the chance to tell him how much I loved him & how much I'd miss him. I have entered my first ever 10k run to raise money for a lung cancer Foundation, as that was the last words I told him I would do in his honour (he was a keen runner in his youth) so me being a couch potato is definitely going to be a challenge, he had lost his voice by the end but I'd hope he'd be proud of me for keeping my word.

    My mum is doing ok. She has slowed completely down and her eating is pretty much none existent but she tells me she still feels ok, she does have her bad days and sleeps alot more than she did do, shes also had a few blood transfusions. 

    I cherish  every day she is with us a blessing and speak with her regularly as she live 6hrs away from me.

    I just know I'm gonna have to through all the pain and hurt again this year so your right cancer does Suck!! 

    Thanks again for listening 

    Denise x