Hi there ...

So so sorry your going through this heartbraking time at the moment....  I'm not qualified at all but I have seen on here that there is a chance it MAY be in her brain too .. and that's why she's changing ... it's not her that's angry .. confused ... it's the cancer ... it must be scary for her being taken down this last journey and having no control ...

My sister has late stage dementure ... my wonderful, caring, sweet and cleaver sister is now, angry most of the time .. tells us to "go away" but far harsher then that .. snaps at everything we say .. it's not her either ... it's the dementure ... but l do understand how heartbraking it is ... we've all shed loads of tears .. and it's so hard to see her like that ... but it's saying in your mind... it's NOT them ... 

It's crule, and hard to go through ., but if you can all understand it must be harder for them ... we can walk away for a while ... they can't ... sending you a vertual hug .... Chrissie

Hello teresaane; sorry to read that an already heartbreaking situation is being compounded by the effect it is having on your mum.   As Chrissie says it may be that the cancer has spread to her brain or another possibility is that she herself may be having difficulty coping with the situation she finds herself in. I am sure you will continue to treat her with kindness and love - the price we pay for loving someone so much is that it hurts so much to see them deteriorating.    Have you discussed your mum's condition with the medical staff caring for her; it may be that they are not sure either and there is no reason to put your mum through further tests to find out at this stage.  You will always remember your mum as the loving kind parent she was and that will be the picture that you carry in your heart and head when she has gone.  You are doing a good job in a difficult situation.  Best wishes.  Annie

Thankyou for your kind words xx

Hey there, 

I totally agree with the ladies, it's the cancer. It may have gone to her brain and also it may be extreme anxiety or a side effect of the medication she's taking. 

My dad gets snappy and angry. Not really at me but definitely towards my mum. He did swear at me yesterday but he apologised immediately afterwards. In my dads case he's trying his best to accept things and I think he's doing really well. But he's developed extreme anxiety now, night terrors, night mares, massive panic attacks. He's frightened of the night time now. He is absolutely petrified beyond belief about dying and this is not my dad. My dad wouldn't let anything phase him. He's not scared of anything. It's definitely the cancer and it is the most heart breaking thing I've ever seen. I'm so sorry you're going through this. Take care. Xxxxxx