Finding it hard - BC diagnosis

Was diagnosed with DCIS last year and was totally positive, had my treatment and am now cured.

I've posted on the forum regularly in support of many and hope my words have been encouraging to those I've replied to.

Now only 12 months later my daughter has been diagnosed  with invasive ductal carcinoma and I'm finding it hard. Hopefully caught really early as she had herself checked after I was diagnosed and was clear. She has a CT scan tomorrow (is this usual?) and her lumpectomy is scheduled for the 15th. Other than that we don't know her treatment plan yet. Don't know any stages or other info yet. 

I'm finding it harder to deal with than my own. As a parent you just want to protect your children and I'd take the hit first over my kids any day. She's only 42 with 2 young boys.

My hubby's taken it really hard

She lives away from me and I think I'll feel better when I see her (next week)

I know I'll get support on here and hopefully Chrissie, Marlyn, Beachebabe, Jolamine will chip in and make me  feel a whole lot better with their wise words

Thanks in advance - Irene x

 

  • Thank you Chriss always lovely to hear from you x 

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    Hi Chrissie,

    I had to laugh at your suggestion. You’ve given me a good idea if I don’t get anywhere with the hospital tomorrow.

    Why does it have to be local – what’s wrong with going national? I can just imagine the headlines – Boobless Brigade hone in on Westminster!

    Regards,

    Jolamine xx

  • Hi Irene just wanted to say, hope everything go well tomorrow will be thinking of you both x 

  • Hi there Irene ...

    Just popping on to say, still thinking of you ... your daughters got one amazing mum ... I'll send you a pair of my vertual pink boxing gloves for your daughter ... 

    Here's to kicking cancers nasty butt ... Chrissie

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    Hi Irene,

    I hope that you managed to make it to your daughter's safely today and that you've enjoyed some time together tonight. I am thinking of you both tomorrow and hope that everything goes well for her.

    Kind regards,

    Jolamine xx

  • Thank you to all my lovely friends on here.

    Yes, I got down here safely and so glad to see her. She’s amazingly calm and I have to admit I’ve managed to hold my emotions in check probably because she’s so calm. We’ve had a few laughs.

    I took her for guide wire yesterday afternoon and then again this morning for dye. Her husband has just taken her back to hospital now for the op scheduled for this afternoon.

    She should be home later tonight.

    i think the real emotion will kick in when she gets her results on April 3rd and she knows her treatment plan. They have talked about chemo and rads to her but they’re doing an oncotype test to see what the chances of recurrence are. Being so young I think they’ll take a belt and braces approach. Told her though that the cancer will be gone tonight and anything else is her insurance for a long and healthy future.

    She says she doesn’t give a stuff (politely) what it takes as long as it’s gone.

    Thank you all for being so caring and supportive. I’ll keep you updated - Irene x

  • Irene,

    now the waiting, bet your pacing the floor. Yes, by tonight her cancer has gone, a step in the right direction, chemo was belt and braces for me too, throw  everything at it right now...write this year off...everything on hold....get better, get stronger, ready for the rest of my life....and it sounds like your lovely daughter feels the same....with you by her side she can take on the world....

    sending all the very best good stuff I can muster.....let us know when she's home? Xxxxx

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    Hii Irene,

    I'm glad to hear that all is going ahead as we speak. It sounds like, given the circumstances, a belt and braces is the best approach.

    I don't think that you could have any better advice than that which Marilyn has given you "throw everything at it right now...write this year off...everything on hold....get better, get stronger, ready for the rest of my life....and it sounds like your lovely daughter feels the same....with you by her side she can take on the world"

    I hope that all goes well today and, that the results are not too untoward.

    Thinking of and praying for you all.

    Kind regards,

    Jolamine xx

  • All good and my daughters home now. She looks shattered. It seems that nothing was more than they expected and the lymph nodes are clear ......phew

    other than that it will be the 3rd April when she gets her treatment plan.

    Another wait but we’re all used to that on here.

    Once again your support is invaluable to me. Thank you from the bottom of my heart - Irene x

  • Hi Irene

    I am thinking of you and your daughter. What a relief that today is done. She will be so thankful that you are with her. You totally get it, how she feels and all her fears. 

    Sending hugs x

    C x