Hi there Colin. .

There's lots of us breast lasses on here .. it is devistating getting that word cancer said to us .. and yes it turns our world up side down ... and all those feelings are really normal .. 

I had to get my head round it and shut myself away to cry for ages ... till I was cried out .. came on here and got an angel here that helped me through those early days .. when you have to process it for our selfs .. and then the reactions those close to you when they hear .. oh my it's a like a rollercoaster that we get on and don't when well get off ... 

My daughter in law also got us all to gether and said "no more panicking... no more what ifs .. well take every problem as and when it comes up. .. and we'll do it together" that was what made me get my vertual boxing gloves on and get ready to take on this cancer ... once everyone gets their head around it, it really helps .. yes still have bad days .. but then jump back into the ring ..

There's lots of us on here joined in at different times .. and at different stages .. but wer still here ... [@rileyroo]‍ [@Sandra123]‍ [@Jbains]‍  ... we've all been were you are now .. we've all got one thing in common .. kicking cancers butt right down this journey wer on .. lots of others have come on too ..

So any questions she has or you .. you'll find us all here .. I'm 20 months post mastectomy and doing really well .. and I had a grade 3 .. so you just being there holding her hand .. will mean the world to her .. you cant make it go away .. theres not lots of words that ease it .. but just supporting her however she feels will help ...looking back the scariest time was where you are now.. the unknown... l went to Drs and got some tablets to help with the nurves just before op .. then found out ok was not half as bad as in my head .. 

Chrissie  xx

Thanks so much for the reply. We found out today that she has a further cancer in the second breast. Apparently not connected. 

Grade 2 invasive? She is having a CT scan on Tuesday and a full body bone scan to see if it has gone elsewhere.

The difficulty for me is that she managed to hide it for nearly 2 years due to the fear of making it real. Even. Is I think she is still in fear and says she doesn’t want cheamo as a treatment (this hasn’t been suggested yet) again because of a fear of what it does. For me I just want her to get whatever treatment is needed to get her well. It’s early days so I understand it’s still very raw. 

The next week will give us more information so maybe it will make things clearer. I have to admire you all for being so positive. 

Ill post to let let you know how we get on. 

Thanks again for the positive response :-)

so we have the results and it has been confirmed that my girlfriend has grade 2 hormonal cancer in both breasts, lung, spine and pelvic bones. I’m totally devastated. However she has been given a lifeline with hormonal drug therapy as we know it can’t  be cured. 

Im going to take this as a positive as the news could have been much worse. For me it gives me an opportunity to live the best life we can while she is still feeling well and we can manage the side effects. The future is the future and we don’t know what this will bring. We will deal with that when it happens. 

I’m more saddened that she had such a fear of talking about this for such a long time when the reality is that the amount of love and support around her would have dealt with anything she had to go through. The relief she has now despite the reality of the situation far outweighs the dark cloud she has had to become used to. If anyone out there is reading this and has the same concerns or fear. Find a way of letting someone know. I know you probably don’t think there is a way but I guarantee you will be amazed at the love and support you will get. 

And it may just save your life...

my thoughts to everyone in this situation, keep strong! x

Hi try(just found out I have brest cancer) it's a new string just starting.

Billy 

Hi there ...

So so sorry on how those diagnosis has gone ... cancer sucks big time ...

But I just wanted to say, my first 4 call backs from mamorgrams were all clear ... but the last time I felt this lump, I knew it was different .. and I was so scared , more for my family then me ... and as my health hadn't been good for a long time ... l never told any one either for nearly two years ... 

I got a chest infection and my lump showed up on the x ray ... it was a grade 3 and close to the surface ... l did have the masectomy ... I am on tamoxifen.... and I know from this expierance, if I'd not had that x ray for my chest, I wouldn't be here now ... 

So yes your so right ... don't wait ... there's lots of reasons we hold it in ... I'm so so sorry, hers has spread ... and you know none of us know if we have tomorrow ... so I'm doing the same as you are with her .. making every day count ... because every day is a bonus ... every day can have good memories,  weather it's happy or hard days ... hold on together ... always here if you want a chat ...

Chrissie x

Oh Colin, my heart just breaks for you, all the " what ifs...and buts" you both sound so strong. My mum ( 30 years ago) found a lump, and fear made her keep it a secret for many months, then out of the blue  a dog bit her! She had no choice but to see the doctor and while there blurted it all out.....I always think thank god for that dog bite! 

I think your both amazing....and your right...one day at a time....making treasured memories... I am giving you both a huge virtual hug....xxxxx