So, my mum got diagnosed with cancer in December 2017...3 days before I had my son, 2 days before Christmas. She started chemo and after so many got an hysterectomy, they said they couldn’t get all of it out and there was a bit left on her bowel so they would continue the chemo to see how it took to it. She’s not long finished and had her ct and mri scan and had her appointment with the doctors. Her and my dad went but my dad isn’t well either, he had a brain injury years ago and hasn’t been the same since, his memory is awful and he takes dizzy spells and can black out sometimes because of it. At the appointment he took a dizzy spell and my mum ended up saying she had heard enough and they went home. The doctor wanted to speak to my older brother as he normally goes with them to understand what’s happening a bit more so she phoned him and long story short he asked her what was happening, the cancer is growing and can’t be stopped. He asked how long she had left and the doctor said months. My mums took the offer of more stronger chemo but this is going to make her ill and she’s also to take tablets to stop the blood supply to the chemo but it can make her bleed from other places. I just don’t know what to do. I’m so scared of losing my mum but I have to keep it together for her, my dad, my brother and my kids. My brother only told me yesterday, my mum didn’t want me or my dad to know but my brother said he would tell me and she agreed but said don’t tell your dad he won’t be able to handle it. How can she not want my dad to know and how can I tell her she can’t do this to him, he’s a grown man and needs to know especially when we all know. My daughter also dotes on my mum, I can’t handle even thinking about how she’s going to be when she starts to get really unwell and the inevitable happens. I just don’t want this to be happening.
