Hi there, and welcome ...

So sorry, your sis has this horrible cancer on top of everything else ..

Personally l think when we first hear the word cancer most go into shock ... including loved ones .. all the stories we hear about flood our minds .. and it really is a time of mixed emotions .. and it's o.k to have them .. admit it is scary .. and tell yourself it's o.k to feel angry , confused , teary .. and a need to protect those who have it .. it's all normal ..

It's like being put on a rollercoaster ride .. only you don't know how long your be on there .. or what will happen .. or if and when we get off .. sometimes it's harder on those sitting with us ... because they feel helpless and can't make things better ..

Now saying that .. your sister could be in shock or just after her stroke maybe she's not having these feelings .. just go with however she feels .. and if it's not effecting her too much.. that could be a blessing .. l had a grade 3 in 2017 .. and a masectomy in that July.. and looking back , the worse part is those early days of the unknown... but if you can get all those feelings out .. then say o.k .. well take it a day at a time .. and if she has a masectomy or lumpectomy it's not half as bad as I'd thought ..

There's lots of us breast lasses on here ... all trying to kick cancers butt .. coz cancer wants us all to give up , lay down and stay there .. well if you can hold her hand through her journey.. and know there's lots of us on that rollercoaster with her .. and you can ask anything on here .. get those feelings down .. and we know coz we've been there ..

Sending you a big vertual hug. . Chrissie xx

Hello

the lovely Chriss has said it all, I totally echo everything she has said. 

I too have stage 2, and now awaiting chemo....but I will get through it....and so will your sister......

you don't need wise words of wisdom or a magic wand...we don't expect that...all you need todo is be you, hold her hand, sit with her if she wants that...listen to her if she opens up. But like chriss has said...her stroke may have messed her up emotionally ( only you will know this) 

There are no rules to follow, just be you......she wouldn't want superwoman....xxxx