Hi Louise...

Well cancer brings out so much emotions ... everyone takes it a bit different .. and it's like being on an emotional rollercoaster ... one minute up ... the next minute hurtling down ... he's still relatively early in his diagnosis and treatment ... if hes having chemo, that can make him very low ... 

Was he kinder before ... because if he was, it's the cancer that changed him ... but it doesn't give us the right to be angry with those helping us .. be angry at the cancer, not loved ones .. cancer can be just as hard, on those close ... my sister has late stage dementure and has turned from the strongest, loveliest sister / mother / and nan, to someone who is angry with all of us most of the time ... again it's the dementure we feel hurt about ... it is not the wonderful lady she was ... so I know the hurt of getting shouted at and having to cope with that ...

There's no easy solution .. but if I were you, I'd just up and go when he starts being angry ... walk away .. and maybe he will come to try to be a little kinder ... it hurts more when your doing so much to help ..

But when I see sis and it's an angry visit, I've realised l have to leave my pain at the door .. and not carry it round with me ... try to do the same .. tell yourself it's o.k to feel like you do .. be kind to your heart .. and forgive yourself for feeling whatever you feel ... it's part of being human .. we hurt .. 

Hope you find a way to cope ... but it won't hurt to tell him, that he's hurting you .. you can always come on here for a vent ... but remember cancer is not an excuse ... just the reason ...

Chrissie x

Louise, I didn’t have the same experience, but my dad 58 was also diagnosed with oesophageal cancer in August last year. 

He underwent intense chemo and radio for 5 weeks and because of the type of cancer and the problems it brings with swallowing it was so hard to watch him. So although it’s not right I can see how anger can take over, to have the simple things in life taken away overnight must be so hard.

Is there anyway he can release this anger? Does he have the energy? 

I don’t really have the answer, but I just feel for you x