Hi Monto 

So sorry it’s another tough day. 

Just wanted to dash by and give you a virtual ((((((HUG)))))). There is no need to 1) apologise (many of us use this forum as a place to come to when in need of support) and 2) feel guilty....absolutely no need at all.

A cancer diagnosis affects many people...not just the person who is diagnosed.You’re also going through it...and so please allow yourself to feel these emotions without guilt xxxxx 

Hi there ...

Don't hold it in ... your going through so much ... I think it's harder sometimes being the carer and watching someone you love go through so much ... I've been on both sides... and for me, it was harder coping being on the carers side ... I'm much better at managing my cancer ...

If you keep holding feelings in, one day they'll all gush out and it will be overwhelming ... and then everything falls apart ... I've found through life and my cancer, once I shared feelings and thoughts, and admitting it was a scary journey. . We could share tears.. hugs ... and then everyone knew , esp the kids... it's really o.k to cry ... if we wernt meant to cry, we wouldn't have been given tears ...

So start to be kind to you too .. admit it's really hard .. share those thoughts .. then instead of everyone moving in different directions ... you can come to gether with everyone and all move forward to gether on the same path ... 

None of us, going through this, or caring for someone, get away with holding those feelings in ... 

Sending you a caring hug ... Chrissie xx

Hi Starcatone...

Must 'pull myself together' as the saying goes....

Off to work shortly,really don't want to  however when I am there I am very busy and it keeps me occupied.

Thanks again.

Tough one today.

Xx

Oh thank you Chrissie,

I am so glad I joined this forum.

Just joined but finding it so helpful.

Love to you too...

Gaynor xx

Hi Monto

How are you feeling now....and how did today go? Yes, work is a good distraction.....I imagine it takes a great deal of motivation to get there some days with everything that you’ve got on and what with you feeling anxious. 

Hope you’re feeling better xxxx 

Hi Startacone,

I'm OK..... thanks,it's a tough one really I work in a hospital so I actually don't have much escapism,though I usually love my job!

I was better for going to work though I must admit I wasn't my usual smiley self but if I'd have stayed at home I wouldn't have achieved anything.

I am also on a 12 hour shift tomorrow so that too will keep me busy!

Thank you so much for taking the time to write and think about me.

How are you?

Have you had a good day?

Xx

Hi Monto

Wow...a 12 hour shift at the hospital sounds hardcore! Especially at the weekend! I hope that you’ve had a peaceful night so you can be prepared. Well that will certainly keep you occupied! 

I know what you mean about being better for going in to work. When my mum was diagnosed, I found out whilst at work and so my boss immediately drove me home and insisted I take some time off. I was back at work within two days...just sitting at home stewing wasn’t helping one bit..! 

Do people at work know about your lovely partner’s diagnosis? If they do then I am sure they’ll be understanding if you’re not your usual, smiley self. And...even if they don’t know, being smiley all the can’t be sustained every time you’re in...there will be days when you’re not ok and that’s ok!

How is your partner doing? I hope that they are comfortable xx 

This cancer business....it’s just so heartbreaking and unfair. 

I am fine thank you, Monto....still warming up after a break at Christmas....Still on a go slow mentally but getting there! 

Well I hope we will hear from you soon - my thoughts are with you and your partner. Wishing you both strength, energy, courage...and anything else you need to get you through these difficult days xxxx