My husband died of pancreatic cancer

My husband was always healthy he looked after me we were always together he got a tummy infection in December gone 2018 gave him antibiotics they asked him to go back in January for a scan on his belly they phoned that afternoon said doctor wants to see us so we went to be told he as a mass and we had to go for a ct scan we thought it was a ulcer or something two weeks later we had the ct scan but my husband wasn't well he was in pain I begged them to give him something but they said no they haven't got results yet that week I took him to hospital with his pain plus he looked yellow that's when they gave us the news it had also spread to his liver , but that wasn't giving him pain his bile duct was blocked because of the pain from that and where they left him so long he hadn't ate for weeks, it was just us waiting so after two weeks in hospital I stayed with him laid at the end of his bed I brought him home didn't want him in a hospice so this is where he died on the 17th March 2018 my first Christmas without him in 30 years he was 55 

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  • Hi 

    I am so sorry to hear your sad news. My husband was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer that had spread to his liver.He has recently passed away on 21st may 2020 just 7 weeks after diagnosis. This is a cruel disease a aggressive cancer that is difficult to treat. We as a family are really struggling to live without him. He deteriorated so quickly and his journey wasent without its challenges.He was just 56 years old.

     

  • I am so sorry for your loss, it as never got easier for me and its been over two years now, I can't move on from this and I'm not the sort of person to find someone else, I cry myself to sleep and cry because I've woke up, it's never hard and the longer he's gone the more I want to be with him, so I hope and pray your a stronger person than me, but will find that some people will try and help you thr but it don't help me I just want to be left alone I talk to him every day here, and started having a telephone medium when I can afford her Susan bond she very good I know it's Tommy talking to her because I know his words he would use, she also said the more I talk to him the stronger he will get, you should try her but you have to book in advance don't think she got any more appointments til July August she that good and it helps me just for a little bit god bless you xx

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  • I am so sorry for your loss, it as never got easier for me and its been over two years now, I can't move on from this and I'm not the sort of person to find someone else, I cry myself to sleep and cry because I've woke up, it's never hard and the longer he's gone the more I want to be with him, so I hope and pray your a stronger person than me, but will find that some people will try and help you thr but it don't help me I just want to be left alone I talk to him every day here, and started having a telephone medium when I can afford her Susan bond she very good I know it's Tommy talking to her because I know his words he would use, she also said the more I talk to him the stronger he will get, you should try her but you have to book in advance don't think she got any more appointments til July August she that good and it helps me just for a little bit god bless you xx

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