Hi my dad was diagnosed with lung cancer nearly a year ago, we were ready to fight and he got through chemo he was caring for my mum who has Alzheimer’s and was bedridden so to concentrate on beating cancer mum went into a home, and he fought it had all the treatment in June we were told it was shrunk but there was another treatment he could move onto seemed to be more chemo dad started the treatment after a couple of months he started losing weight and had diarrhoea issues so stopped treatment then this escalated he suddenly lost a lot of weight last month at the oncology appointment he was admitted to hospital due to loss of weight and high blood pressure that’s when we noticed a difference he had changed wanted to lie in bed in the dark a bit confused and saying odd things, we were told not the cancer but he had an infection after antibiotics a few days later sent home then the confusion got worse not going out wearing multiple layers of trousers not eating not visiting my mum which prior he did daily no interest in anything, drs said could be infection after effects so really were not worried he would bounce back so concentrated on making sure he ate etc, yesterday next oncology appointment and they are now suddenly saying he hasn’t got long to go that the confusion is a sign the end is near and not worth making another appointment and we need to get him in a home, how have we got here? I have no idea was a total shock I work 70 miles away and can’t be with him 24/7 he doesn’t want to go into a home and the doctor said he can’t organise palliative care as he is not in pain. We need someone to sit with him during the day but who? He could be taken advantage of so scared in case we get the wrong person and he doesn’t seem any worse looks like if we feed him up he would be ok so is it true? How can we tell? What if they are wrong? If it’s the cancer why did they say everything is fine a month ago? Who can help us do I just give up work and make the most of the next couple of months that would mean not giving any notice as I am on 3 months notice and they are saying he has 2 months. What are the signs if we he is still getting up and getting his tea etc can he really be dying? Sorry so many questions but so confused there is only questions in my head