Hi I know how you feel it’s like being punched in the tummy and having your heart ripped out , all I can advise is take each day as it comes and support your mum, it’s hard I know but you can get through this I promise stay strong xx

Hello there

I got diagnosed with cervical cancer last year and thankfully have made a full recovery.  I know what you are all going through. It’s the whole family that is effected.     Please keep talking to each other. We did an awful lot of crying and laughing at times. I went to see my GP during my treatment and was given very mild anti depressants to help with headaches, sleep, worrying. They seemed to help a little so that might be worth thinking about. 

Once I was diagnosed the nhs was amazing and I could not have faulted my treatment. I hope your mum is the same.  I have a husband, daughter 23, son 20 and I think it has brought us closer together.

The waiting for scan results, biopsy’s etc was the worst.  I know how awful this is and such a shock but you have each other and there is an awful lot of people out there to help!

Also, I found the Macmillan nurses very helpful with practical help, financial etc and for explaining things that you might not be able to take in when your mum sees the doctor. It might be a good idea for you to accompany your mum for comfort and an extra pair of ears.

I hope this helps a little. If you want to know anything at all feel free to contact me.

Love to you and your mum and you WILL get through this.

Hi,

My mum was diagnosed in March and it really is terrifying, especially as I work so far away from home. The best thing you can do is spend as much time with your mum as possible so that you both can reassure each other. I found that there were certain parts of my mums journey actually brought us closer together. Things like her losing her hair and helping her try to boost her confidence means she confides in me more which is wonderful!

Don't be scared to talk to your mum's nurses about all your worries, I regularly phoned my mum's nurses who always keep me updated and are willing to explain anything that myself or my family don't understand. I also went to my mum's original appointments with the nurses (she had breast cancer so might be different I'm not sure). I can promise you that there are a lot of people that you can talk to about your worries if you don't want to talk to your mum about them, friends, family, chats like these. 

This is a very tough time, I completely understand what you're going through, the best thing you can do is hold your mum's hand and support her through all this and you'll be surprised as to how much it will also help you. 

Sending you lots of courage and support,

Kelly 

Going through a very similar sitation here... My mom (only 57 and full of life) just statred her treatment for stage 2b cc (6weeks radio, 6 chemos, 3-4 brachi)... I feel like my whole wold went crushing when we found out, I also have problem sleeping and huge anxiety. She is my best friend and generally the wisest and kindest person I know... The feeling of unfairness and what ifs are eating me up, but Im keeping appearances around her.

From what I gathered through research on cc, it really depends on the stage of it when the treatment starts. Do you know what is your moms stage?

Stay strong and hope for the best... its a battle that could be won and ee should be by their side strong and positive. Keep us updated, and it would be nice to stay in touch.