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Hubby having Bowel cancer test im a total mess

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New here i have been married to my husband for 28 years he is 50 years old ..and has all the signs we went to the doctor last week ..he has had his blood test ..having more test soon ..Doctor said its possible it is cancer ...he can hardly eat ..going to the toliet alot constantly having blood in his stools..he is having terrible pains in his stomach ...and all ready lost a lot of weight ..his family have had cancer   ....i went to work on monday but had to come home as i was in floods of tears...as i had to be with him ...i love him so much..im so scared ....i have to be strong i know i do ...and im trying so hard ...but im breaking in side...i have no one to talk to ...i have two grown up children ...and they dont know ...i dont want to let them worry...im putting on such a brave face with eveyone ...and only breaking down when im on my own ....i havent got a clue what lays in front of us ...but im so scared and i really dont know what to do 

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    Hi Tina, it sounds like you are going through a tough time. My dad had bowel cancer 11 years ago and has recently ben diagnosed with secondary liver cancer. tough times xx

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    Very tough for  both of us it seems xx ...its just the unknown that is the frightening bit ...i dont know what to do after that xx

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    Hi Tina, 

    I’m so sorry for what you are both going through at the moment, and you staying so strong must be exhausting and everything must be so overwhelming. I know when things like this happen, they come so quickly you don’t have time to feel sometimes even, until you finally slow down. Just know that us on here are always here for support. You are never alone. Take some time, breathe I know it sounds silly really but I’ve found sometimes it really does help to relax a bit and focus. Your strength is astounding but you need support too. 

    I wish you and your family the absolute best and remember we’re always here 

    Bex x

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    Hello Tina

    Sending hugs. My husband has pancreatic cancer now started with duodenal. It is really hard to be strong all the time. The unknown is the worst. Hoping the news isn't as bad as it might be.

    Sue

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