Hi Becca

so sorry to hear of your mums diagnosis, it’s a very scary time and I’m sure your emotions are all over the place. 

I was diagnosed with stomach cancer 2 weeks ago, and hand on heart please believe me when I tell you it does get better. Once your Mum is told what her treatment plan will be you gain a sense of control. The first few days I cried, didn’t sleep, didn’t eat but I feel I’ve overcome that shock and whilst I have the odd wobbly moment I do feel positive and ready to face my treatment. It’s absolutely normal to feel how you do, my only advice would be is to be there for each other, cry, laugh and tell your mum you love her. My daughter is 15 and her honesty with her feelings and her love have been invaluable to me, it gives you the strength to fight. 

If she’s not sleeping maybe ask GP for short term sleeping tablets as a rested mind functions much better. I’ve taken cannabis oil when I’ve struggled to rest. 

Much love to you and your mum xx

Hi there ...

So sorry your going through this, but just to add to the great advice you've just had from Paul ...

I had a grade 3 breast cancer last year .. like your mum l cried for a couple of days too .. and my son panicked like you ..I'd read a grade 3 was pretty bad ... I thought lots of things that sent me into "what ifs"  and how long I'd have .. my granddaughter was only 5 and we are really close .. 

My daughter in law sat us down and said .. o.k it's cancer... well stop panicking and stop the "what ifs" we will take it one day at a time and deal with everything as and when it comes up ... and well do it together .. once I stopped googling and stopped panicking, we all coped much better .. l was still scared , that's normal .. 

There's lots of us breast cancer ladies on here .. Sandra123, rilleyroo , jbains ,and cournishpastie... we all had it at different times .. and different treatments .. yes some lost their hair, but they got beautiful wigs and yes it's hard but they are DOING well .. some had chemo, some just radiotherapy , where you don't always loose your hair .. 

I had a mastectomy last July , and to be honest that was the least painfull part .. I'm on tamoxifen for a few years .. but I'm doing really well .. breast cancer has come a long way .. it's really hard with lots of ups and downs .. but hold on to each other, and you can do it .. 

Always here if you need a chat .the early waiting is the hardest part ... that was really good advice from Paul, give McMillan a ring .. they chat to anyone effected by cancer ... I talked to them in the early days .. they helped me so much .... sending you both a big hug ...  Chrissie