Advice needed

Hi guys, need some advice.... my dad was admitted to hospital a week ago after many falls. Turns out he has a fractured hip. After an MRI they won’t operare because he has a weak pelvis which could be down to a tumour. He is also having tests for cancer of the esophugas which results of the biopsy were inconclusive but they are very concerned. His case is being heard at a MDT today but they won’t do anything about the esophagus until his hip is sorted. So in the meantime he is in pain with a broken hip and is sick every time he eats. I’m concerned that leaving him is going to do more damage than is already done. Last night a nurse told me that it’s very likely he has secondary cancer which he had back in 2004 liver and bowel but beat it. I don’t think the nurse should of told me that until it’s been confirmed. They have not done a biopsy on his hip so how can the diagnose cancer ?? All His  bloods are fine too but would they be if he does have cancer ?

sorry long post but I don’t know what to do anymore 

  • Welcome to the forum M0nkeyy although I'm sorry to read about the situation your dad finds himself in at the moment.

    I noticed no-one had replied to your post yet so I just thought I'd stop by to see what information, if any, you have found out since the MDT meeting the other day to discuss your dad's case. I hope they've been able to provide you with some answers so something can be done for your dad.

    Hopefully other members who have found themselves in similar scenarios will pop by soon to offer their support and advice but do feel free to give our cancer nurses a call next week if you'd like to talk to someone about this. Their freephone number is 0808 800 4040 and lines are open Monday - Friday between 9a.m - 5p.m.

    Best wishes to you both at this difficult time, 

    Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

  • Hi Steph, thank you the MDT have said they want to take my dad to owestry tomorrow morning for a general health assessment whatever that is but they are bone specialists so it gives me hope something may or can be done as he still has a broken hip but they are not sure if the falls he has been having has caused the brake or secondary cancer. He does have cancer of the esophagus we have been told but I’m so concerned that my dad is not understanding because he says that he’s been told it’s early stages but I have found out he’s been told it’s high grade. He has a Macmillan nurse now who I will speak to Tomorrow. I’m just so worried he hasn’t got long to live and nobody is telling me anything so I cant support him or my mum properly 

  • I know nobody has replied to my message but just an update my dad has been given weeks/months to live and I’m devastated 

  • Hi M0nkeyy,

    I'm so sorry that no one has replied to you sooner; I wanted to offer you my sympathy on the news about your dad.

    As Steph mentioned previously, our nurses are here for you, should you have any questions (0808 800 4040). 

    I do hope a friendly member of the forum will be along soon to talk. In the meantime, I noticed that [@DADDYKINS48][@LauraB1]‍and [@Forwards76]‍all also posted this week about their fathers' diagnoses, so I'm tagging them here in case they would like to chat.

    Sending you our thoughts at this difficult time, M0nkeyy.

    Helen
    Cancer Chat Moderator

  • Hi.

    I am so sorry but I have only just come across your post. I am so so sorry to hear your news. Sadly, my dear Dad is in same situation.  We only found out 6 weeks ago my Dad has terminal cancer in his stomach and lungs, and he doesn't have long left at all now.  He is barely eating or drinking now, and is sleeping so much now. 

    I am struggling to cope so much. I can't stop crying as I can't imagine my life without him.  

    Sending you Love, thoughts & prayers at this VERY difficult time, and am here if you want to chat  

    Love 

    DADDYKINS48 xxx

  • I know it's unlikely to make you feel any better, but I'm thinking of you and your family and sending plenty of virtual hugs. x

  • Hi so sorry I only just saw this message, my dad passed away 26/8 he lived 2 weeks after being told the worse news. I’ve not been on here and I feel so lost and empty but I was with him when he died and he was so brave. I’m thinking of you and know what you are going through there are no words I can offer you through the pain. But I send you lots of hugs and prayers xx

  • Hi , thank you for your post I only just saw it. My dad sadly passed away but knowing there are people out there sending hugs gives me strength. I’m not quite sure it’s all sunk in yet xx