Hi Becky. Welcome to the forum.

Forgive your friends; they've never had to face a situation like this before and they just don't know how to react. I'm sure they'll come to terms with it if you give them enough time. 

I'm not a doctor, but I do know that whilst a cancer diagnosis is never good news, it's not always bad news.  Depending on the type of cancer, and whether it's been caught early or late, it might be treatable or curable. It's understandable that the entire family is in a state of shock, but this is a case where knowledge is power, and the more you know, the better you can cope. 

Of course, this is where not being an adult can be a real problem. Your parents may think they're protecting you by not giving you the details. This is nonsense, of course, because you need and deserve to know as much as they do - but persuading them to tell you may be difficult. I think you should try to find out what you can, as long as you don't become a pain. That's a tricky path to negotiate. 

In the meantime, most of us here have either been cancer patients at one time, or are patients now, or are caring for someone who's a patient.  You can talk to us. 

Hi Becky

Bless you, firstly, sending a big hug. 

Secondly your friends may not have had to deal with things like this in their lives and find it difficult. 

Ive made an appointment to see someone at our local Cancer Care ( recommended by our GP)

i am also all over the place asince my husbands  diagnosis. And have had some weird replies from friends! 

Thats the best cancer to have.........

He looks fine..............

Its you and your dad that matter now. Look after yourself and sending a second hug xx