My mother is an alcoholic who has suffered from depression for most of her life. She is emotionally and verbally abusive to my father and myself. We have never gotten along well and I deeply dislike her. She has regular outbursts when she screams abuse at us for hours/ days.
Recently she was diagnosed with breast cancer. At the beginning she said she told me alone and told my father she wanted him to have nothing to do with it.
I sometimes attended appointments with her, but she usually went with a random friend. My father and I visited her in hospital.
As she frequently changed her mind about what she wanted from us (she only wanted her friends at the appointments, then she was angry that we didn't turn up, and then decided we were not allowed to tell the rest of the family, and then was angry that no one asked how she was etc.) we only have very small amonts of information.
For months I put in a lot of effort. I cooked and cleaned, made her breakfast every morning, called twice a day when I was at work, took time off to attend appointments and always listened to her, gave advice. But her outbursts are becomming more and more aggressive and voilent.
Becuase she is such a horrible person (has wished cancer on her friends who have not provided her with enough support etc.), she has few people to speak to about this. I have tried to always be supportive emotionally and physically but it is becoming increasingly hard. How can I 'emotionally support' my mother when I despise her?
