Hi. What a very difficult situation. It's so painful to hear that kind of diagnosis that I think sometimes people find it easier to pretend that it isn't really as serious as it really is. I certainly think this was the case with my mother. She was diagnosed with cancer that had spread and was not curable. She seemed to understand it the day of the diagnosis. But as the days and weeks passed, she didn't talk about it and instead talked about getting better and going home. She renewed a magazine subscription for 2 years. I honestly didn't have the heart to question her whether it was a good idea. She thought that although the cancer couldn't be cured it could at least be treated. But I'm not sure if realized that there was a difference...I kind of think that in her mind, treated/slowed down was the same as making it go away. In any case, having that hope enabled to her to live each day in a happier state of mind. Recently her doctor has told her she is dying and that the cancer can't be treated at all. Now she has lost hope completely and wants to die.