Hi JW

Your wife is going to have ups and downs thats they way this thing works.

Go with her on this, dont be down yourself but being too upbeat can be really annoying,

I found talking was best and if she does not want to talk then leave it.

Sorry but you really have to follow her lead on this, be there and be pacient.

River

Hi jw ... River is so right, there's no right or wrong way ... There's no books on how to get through coz every journey is different ... That's why you hear the word rollercoaster so often ... Highs and lows and those feelings can change from hour to hour ... Even the strongest of us have days where the world seems to be falling in on us ... And then days when we can stay positive ...

I just take every day and every feeling and go with it ... It's just getting the right balance ... But if you can hold her hand along this path and know you can't take it away or make it better... But sometimes all we need is a hug and you don't need any words, just knowing your there whatever she is feeling, will help her more then you'll ever know ... 

So try and stay in the day, try not to look too far ahead or think "what if" just be there ... 

Take care , and remember how far you've both come already ... You can do this ... Chrisie x

Thank you, the 4 words 'You can do this' mean so much!