Hello Jasonf1983.  What awful news.  I hope your mum is getting the necessary care.  It is awful to see someone you love in pain - perhaps you could speak to her doctor and ask about better pain relief?  If you are not clear about any aspect of the care she is/should be receiving then I would suggest you either ring the nurses on this website (Freefone 0808 808 4040 9am-5pm Mon-Fri) or MacMillan Cancer Support (Freefone 0808 808 0000 weekdays 9am-8pm) as either will give you advice about where to get the extra help your stepmum needs.

Also please look after yourself (both you and other close family members) as it is not easy watching a loved one gradually slipping away.  Share your feelings and help each other as much as possible.  And come back here as often as you feel you want to do so.  Annie

Since writing this my step mum as gotten worse.she can not move on her own and her organs have shut down apart from her lungs and heart.she is in a hospital bed at home on a cathater and a syringe driver.also been given pnr sedaten.dr said we need to keep my step mum comfortable and only days left to live and that family should say there final goodbyes.im very devasted.

My step mum passed away peacefully Sunday night

Hello Jason.  I am so sorry that you have now lost your stepmum.  Even when you know that the end is coming close it is still a huge emotional jolt.  I hope you can take comfort from knowing that your stepmum's life ended at home at home where she wanted to be and with her family.  Do come back here throughout the grieving process which can be very hard.   Annie