Boyfriend has cancer pushing me away

So my bf was diagnosed with cancer about a week ago. I reassured him that I wasn't going to leave him that I love him & that I will be there for him thru it all. He started distancing himself from me but he would still respond to me when I messaged him. Last night he told me he was sorry that he's in pain &feels regret. I tried to get him to talk to me about how he feels & that i wanted to see him but he said no that he just want to be alone & needs distance that he was sorry. So i told him that I'm still here for him & that I love him. Shortly after that I had seen he had blocked me from Instagram. I still have him on fb & I see that he still posts. I don't know how to feel about the whole thing. All I want to do is be there for him but I don't want to push him to much. It's been so hard idk what to do.

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  • Hi there ... so sorry your in such a sad situation ... sometimes it's harder being on the outside ... 

    But not knowing how your b f is really feeling, it could be (only my guess) he's either trying to protect you as it's so painfull seeing people we love hurting because of our cancer journey... and we need to protect them sometimes coz it's so hard for our own heads to get around, and worrying about others has to take second place for awhile...  or the more harder one to hear, is he wants to end the relationship ... I'm sorry, but you need to understand it may just be that too ...

    By doing what you have, and saying your there if he needs you , will give him the space to know you still care, but just standing back a pace or two ... if he really does care, he may just contact you at some point, but at least then you'll know how he feels ... and at least you can keep a discreet eye on how he's doing on face book ... hope others come here with their thoughts ... take care ... Chrissie  x

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  • Hi there ... so sorry your in such a sad situation ... sometimes it's harder being on the outside ... 

    But not knowing how your b f is really feeling, it could be (only my guess) he's either trying to protect you as it's so painfull seeing people we love hurting because of our cancer journey... and we need to protect them sometimes coz it's so hard for our own heads to get around, and worrying about others has to take second place for awhile...  or the more harder one to hear, is he wants to end the relationship ... I'm sorry, but you need to understand it may just be that too ...

    By doing what you have, and saying your there if he needs you , will give him the space to know you still care, but just standing back a pace or two ... if he really does care, he may just contact you at some point, but at least then you'll know how he feels ... and at least you can keep a discreet eye on how he's doing on face book ... hope others come here with their thoughts ... take care ... Chrissie  x

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