Hi there Cindy ... It's really hard but try not to over think things ... Best take a paper and pen so you can write everything down, including dates and any details, and if you don't understand any words they say , ask them to spell them ... My daughter in law came with me, and everything they said went over my head but my d in law stayed calm and when l was settled  she had wrote days and times and it was so helpful ... 

I know you will be nervous too, but try and keep it together as she will need your strength ... Later you can let it all out ... But don't forget it just may be something that's o.k and treatable ... 

Let us know how you go ... Maybe other will come along soon with more ideas on questions ...

Wish we all had a friend like you .... Take care ... Chrisie xx

Hi there Sindy, A grim situation. I'm not a medic but I think all will hinge on it being operable (which has not been formally ruled out, if I understand correctly) and not having spread. Lung cancer statistics are dire, but this is because in many cases it has already spread at the moment of diagnosis. But at the moment no spread has been detected, which means there is still a great chance. So don't give up hope yet. xx Harry

Hi sindy  ... oh hunny, that's just heart breaking...  what an amazing friend you are ... but one thing worries me, is the Dr who told you she may have just few months left, was not supposed to give you info, before your friend ... and reading your post again, there's still a biopsy result to come, where they could find it's treatable, so hang on to that for the moment ... I expect your in a state now, as to what to say bout that information ... 

Even the strongest of us, have a meltdown, when it feels just too much to handle ... that's normal... it's about getting things in proportion... it's about getting it all out, and getting back on track and being , like you were yesterday, and support your buddy ... there's no easy way around a diagnosis... you can let her talk, hold her hand, even cry together and it's no bad thing to admit your scared ... hopefully you, her mum, and son can all pull together to help her with whatever this horrible, cruel cancer brings .. 

Just know , your not alone, there is so many on here going through this at the moment ... my heart is with you ... usually here most days ... l can't take the pain away, but l can listen ... take care ... sending you a big hug ... Chrissie  

Hi Chriss.

thank you so much. My friend was supposed to have biopsy on Thursday but they couldnt do it as she was too sick! Just throwing up comstantly and they had to reschedule for Monday. I am worried out of my mind. Me and my partner have told her yesterday she shall call on us any time, come and stay, have a cry, a chat, a lie down, be looked after or whatever she needs. She is a feisty strong girl and we are holding on to the little hope we have, trying to stay positive and give her hope (within reason). She is in dispair. So am I. Yes perhaps the Doc shouldnt have told me but I asked her specifically for this. I wont tell my friend until the Doctor does. She has already enough to deal with without this aweful information. I need her to fight! Because I will make damn sure she doesnt need to lift a finger and has everything she needs. I cooked her a couple of dinners so she doesnt have to cook, which she was very grateful for. I looked into support and financial benefits for her and when it comes to it I told her I will help her. Its a set back that she couldnt have biopsy on thursday and it crushed her. But re take Monday, hopefully. And hopefully by Tuesday we know what exactly we are dealing with. I still find it very hard to cry, trying to keep going, holding everything together. She needs me to be strong. Even been thinking of getting her hair made into a wig and taking mine too. Told her I wear a bandanner with her together. Made her smile I will come back her once we know more. Thank you for the support, I appreciate it so much. Sometimes ppl dont know what to say but I am just trying to carry on being me. She is such a winderful woman. Xx

Hi sindy ... all l can say is, if we all had a friend like you, the world would be a kinder place ... I'm so sorry, it all sounds so heart breaking, but mirical do happen sometimes ... please look after your self .. I always remember the saying " who cares for the carers "  if you hold everything in ... it's like you have a drawer in your head, and when things get to painfull, you put it in your draw ... and carry on until one day you open the draw, and it all falls out ... then it's overwhelming and you won't cope .. it's all about balance .. caring for yourself, coz if you fall, everything falls ..

don't hold back tears, it's the human way of realising tension, but don't cry all day... and don't be worried to admit your scared, and saying all the things in your heart, and your friend may open up to you too, some words are hard to hear, but keeping them in is worse in the long run ... you can't take this away from your friend, but like your doing, you can walk along side her ... believe me, your friendship is priceless to her .. 

You can always private message me, if you need a shoulder to lean on .. as although I come on here most days, some replys are missed ... so brave lass .. you take care of your heart and be kind to yourself .. and don't forget to have a brake occasionally and do something nice, to take your mind off it all ... you'll be stronger for it ... big big hug ... Chrissie x