Awww, thanks so much for your reply. Your courage really insprires me to stay strong. Just someone else having empathy and understanding really helps. Wishing you every happiness in the future, as you rebuild your life again. You surely deserve to find a new life free of judgement and cruelty. I am sure you did everything in your power to help your husband, but their is a limit to how much one can be emotionally abused and you were quite right to fight for your situation, that was not of your making. Wish you lived nearby, cause it is so reassuring knowing their are folk out there that understand and care.

Hi annofgreen. I came to this site looking for some advice or people in a similiar situation. I can really indentify with your story. The emotional abuse and blackmail from my husband has become unbearable. So much so I've come close to a mental breakdown but I am trying to keep my head above water for our childrens' sake. They are what keep my going. My husband has STage 4 bowel cancer spread to liver and lungs. His diagnosis is terminal with about a year or a bit more to live. Looking back he has always been hyper critical and controlling but that has snowballed out of control in the past 4 years since he was diagnosed to the point where he is a total stranger to me most of the time. It's like any of his negative traits have been magnified 1000%. It is the most awful situation. Today he is in hospital after sending me a string of vile texts when he asked my opinion on something and he didn't agree with my answer. Cue every kind of low blow and dig and outright accusations you can think of. I cannot take much more. I hope you are ok and I can only say I understand completely what you are going through and I wish you all the best. People can only understand this situation if they've experieced it. xx