I am here to listen as my husband is doing the same thing. Stage 4 melanoma, most treatments have failured--surgery issues, he is bitter, angry and delibrately tries to push me away.

My partner if 10 years has been cold , cruel & critical so I sympathise...especially as I've been sole carer for 2.5 years , during the pandemic. His family have sadly been very judgmental , especially when I same close to a breakdown, so I really sympathise it's horrendous I understand 

My partner if 10 years has been cold , cruel & critical so I sympathise...especially as I've been sole carer for 2.5 years , during the pandemic. His family have sadly been very judgmental , especially when I same close to a breakdown, so I really sympathise it's horrendous I understand 

Thank you so much. I do not understand how much judgement one can get when one is doing everything within one's power to care and help. I guess it is because they are not having to deal with someone you once loved, being utterly awful day in and day out. They do not understand how draining it can be, neither how it takes it's toll on ones emotional and physical well being. Stay strong and thanks for replying.

Hi annofgreen. I came to this site looking for some advice or people in a similiar situation. I can really indentify with your story. The emotional abuse and blackmail from my husband has become unbearable. So much so I've come close to a mental breakdown but I am trying to keep my head above water for our childrens' sake. They are what keep my going. My husband has STage 4 bowel cancer spread to liver and lungs. His diagnosis is terminal with about a year or a bit more to live. Looking back he has always been hyper critical and controlling but that has snowballed out of control in the past 4 years since he was diagnosed to the point where he is a total stranger to me most of the time. It's like any of his negative traits have been magnified 1000%. It is the most awful situation. Today he is in hospital after sending me a string of vile texts when he asked my opinion on something and he didn't agree with my answer. Cue every kind of low blow and dig and outright accusations you can think of. I cannot take much more. I hope you are ok and I can only say I understand completely what you are going through and I wish you all the best. People can only understand this situation if they've experieced it. xx