Yes my wife is been  very distant and doesn't show much affection she has cancer and depression iam finding it very hard  my daughter is so young and doesn't know what happening  with my wife.its been hell I've cried myself to sleep and my wife melds make unable to cry  

Not really my counsellor  is trying but sometimes I find she doesn't know how I feel

Not really my counsellor  is trying but sometimes I find she doesn't know how I feel

Hi Neill, 

I cannot offer advice however I am going through a minor version of what you are describing and finding it hard. Everyone I speak to tells me that it must be so hard for him and they cannot imagine what it's like for him however they fail to mention how it is for the supporting partner. 

I have tried everything and just get told that he has no energy to talk about it or deal with it. He is running on empty. I know that when you are low and have no hope, the last thing you can be is patient, kind and caring for someone else as you cannot do it for yourself. 

I hope things are a little better for you now a month on.