Hello? Practical advice please

I currently have an uncle with prostate cancer, brother in law with lung cancer, and now my mum has very probably got lung cancer too as she has lost her voice and has a huge lump of something in her lung. I have no idea what to do , where to go, as I live many miles away from them. I'm a bit lost what I can do. I'm stuck. Of course my first thought was to try Google for information, but I'm no doctor and so have no facility to understand what any of it actually means and it all sounds scary. I need to find some actual information designed for an idiot (me). How best can I help them? They are all stubborn, strong, fit people. Where to begin?

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    Hi Eddix,

    It sounds as if you are in amongst it all at the moment. Do you have other family living nearer to your relatives who can help out?

    It is always difficult trying to face this situation when you live some distance away.

    Fortunately, phones are a boon. You can talk to your relatives regularly to keep up to date with appointments, diagnosis and treatment.

    If your mum is likely to have an operation, you could ensure that she has some fresh nightwear.  I’m sure that other people will be in touch with you soon to make other suggestions.

    You might find it helpful to speak to one of the nurses on this site. It is free to phone and they are very helpful.

    I am sure that your relatives will not expect you to be with them all the time, but will be happy to know that you haven’t forgotten them and that you can still keep in touch with them.

    Remember that we are all here to offer you support as you travel this cancer journey.

    Kind regards,

    Jolamine xx

  • Get in touch with Macmillan team. They will. E able to offer practical advice and support to you and family. If any already have a pallative care nurse they will be able to provide support as well.