A lot going on  in your life you can only do so much having a little one is hard work you need to pace yourself as you work as well be kind to yourself  have you got a partner your mum acnd dad will understand it is difficult with a little one I wish him well good luck from jean

Is your wee one at nursery or childminder? Either way, its definitely worth keeping them informed.

It's normal to worry about your child becoming distant when they go into childcare. But even the best nursery key worker or childminder will never be as good as Mummy! Don't worry or beat yourself up about it. 

Is it practical to visit brother after you've put your littlie to bed? A 30minute visit at 7pm or similar?

Can you arrange your compassionate leave as one day a week, or 2 afternoons a week, rather than a straight block of time? That way you could have a block of time to be with your brother, for a longer period of time. It might not be something your employer can do, but maybe worth asking. Alternatively would compressed hours work? So longer days 4 days a week in return for an early finish one day?

Are you in a position to pay someone to come in to do the cleaning/ironing once a week? Use  supermarket delivery service, it saves loads of time once set up. You could do same for your parents, arranging for delivery when cleaner is in? 

Do do you have friends who you can ask for practical support? E.g., bringing cooked food, etc. People often want to help but don't know how.

its very tough to be pulled in different directions like this, so take care of yourself, too.