hubby has been given about 12 months had bowel cancer that has spread to both of his lungs and now has spread to his abdomen. as a partner it us really hard to cope with
My husband has kidney cancer and it's spread to his lungs and is now near his heart. He has months left, one minute I'm devastated the next I'm being practical, I'm all over the place and feel so alone.
Hi, i lost mine a year ago, he was given 4 months at age 43 without chemo, and ended up lasting 11 months with. I think you start grieving as soon as you are told, i went straight on antidepressants which helped me stay calm, I'm still on them and don't think i could manage looking after my kids without...no magic cure for this though, i just had to be there with him, holding his hand through more and yet more bad news, telling him i love him, no words can express the loss you both feel, and unfortunately noone apart from others who have also lived it could understand. Luckily i found others on this site who were also living the nightmare with similar prognosis and they have become good friends, one i still private message daily. I would really recommend you start your own thread if you can, or look under one with terminal diagnosis to find someone in a similar situation for ongoing support, one thing that shocked me was how little genuine support and understanding i got from 'close' family and friends, i have now learnt not to expect much from them and made new friends who 'get it', your time and energy is going to be stretched, don't waste it on people who can't or don't want to help or understand, this is a time people should be supporting YOU, not the other way round but sadly didn't happen for me....please feel free to private message me, ive been there and sadly unlike most of your friends I DO know exactly how you feel!
Hi, i lost mine a year ago, he was given 4 months at age 43 without chemo, and ended up lasting 11 months with. I think you start grieving as soon as you are told, i went straight on antidepressants which helped me stay calm, I'm still on them and don't think i could manage looking after my kids without...no magic cure for this though, i just had to be there with him, holding his hand through more and yet more bad news, telling him i love him, no words can express the loss you both feel, and unfortunately noone apart from others who have also lived it could understand. Luckily i found others on this site who were also living the nightmare with similar prognosis and they have become good friends, one i still private message daily. I would really recommend you start your own thread if you can, or look under one with terminal diagnosis to find someone in a similar situation for ongoing support, one thing that shocked me was how little genuine support and understanding i got from 'close' family and friends, i have now learnt not to expect much from them and made new friends who 'get it', your time and energy is going to be stretched, don't waste it on people who can't or don't want to help or understand, this is a time people should be supporting YOU, not the other way round but sadly didn't happen for me....please feel free to private message me, ive been there and sadly unlike most of your friends I DO know exactly how you feel!
