hubby has been given about 12 months had bowel cancer that has spread to both of his lungs and now has spread to his abdomen. as a partner it us really hard to cope with
My husband has kidney cancer and it's spread to his lungs and is now near his heart. He has months left, one minute I'm devastated the next I'm being practical, I'm all over the place and feel so alone.
My husband has kidney cancer and it's spread to his lungs and is now near his heart. He has months left, one minute I'm devastated the next I'm being practical, I'm all over the place and feel so alone.
It is sometime (2012) since I faced the devastating news that my husband had terminal cancer and it was a very hard place to find ourselves. I see that you have not received any response on this thread and it may be a good idea to start your own thread so that others may see it. I found this forum during my hubby's illness and it gave me some support hearing from others who had some understanding of what we were facing. Sadly lost my hubby in 2015 and life now is different and it took much strength to go day to day during his cancer journey but I learnt a lot about myself and found a way forward in that I could manage with support which I chose to ask for. Writing my feelings down on this forum and asking questions along the way were helpful as was the wonderful words that complete strangers were able to offer. I hope you both get all the support you need moving forward. Jules54
Hi, i lost mine a year ago, he was given 4 months at age 43 without chemo, and ended up lasting 11 months with. I think you start grieving as soon as you are told, i went straight on antidepressants which helped me stay calm, I'm still on them and don't think i could manage looking after my kids without...no magic cure for this though, i just had to be there with him, holding his hand through more and yet more bad news, telling him i love him, no words can express the loss you both feel, and unfortunately noone apart from others who have also lived it could understand. Luckily i found others on this site who were also living the nightmare with similar prognosis and they have become good friends, one i still private message daily. I would really recommend you start your own thread if you can, or look under one with terminal diagnosis to find someone in a similar situation for ongoing support, one thing that shocked me was how little genuine support and understanding i got from 'close' family and friends, i have now learnt not to expect much from them and made new friends who 'get it', your time and energy is going to be stretched, don't waste it on people who can't or don't want to help or understand, this is a time people should be supporting YOU, not the other way round but sadly didn't happen for me....please feel free to private message me, ive been there and sadly unlike most of your friends I DO know exactly how you feel!
My hubby has kidney cancer spread to his lungs. You have my live and sympathy as I too am all over the place since diagnosis in January. Our timeline is a few years which I should be grateful for - and I am but I feel so fragile and vulnerable or I just lash out at bad drivers etc. Anyone can upset me with an unkind look or word and I'm scared of the future. I feel like I'm thrashing about and the ground beneath me is unsteady. Nothing, nothing prepares you for this. We are in this awful club together though. You're not alone Zaffertime and Yoc.
