hubby has been given about 12 months had bowel cancer that has spread to both of his lungs and now has spread to his abdomen. as a partner it us really hard to cope with
That is a question that I have as well! My boyfriend has been diagnosed with cholangiocarcinoma (bile duct cancer) that has matasasized to his liver and his bones! Prognosis is usually 6 months from presenting! So with that timeline I am looking at the end of March! I hope I am wrong! I would really like to know how to deal as well!
That is a question that I have as well! My boyfriend has been diagnosed with cholangiocarcinoma (bile duct cancer) that has matasasized to his liver and his bones! Prognosis is usually 6 months from presenting! So with that timeline I am looking at the end of March! I hope I am wrong! I would really like to know how to deal as well!
I dont have a partner with a terminal diagnosis but i did have a 35 year old son who had bowel cancer, with liver mets in all his liver diagnosed beginning of May 2017 and died 19 January 2017 ten days after his 35 birthday. The journey from May to that day in January, was hard, emotional, we tried to make as many memories with him and his new wife. We would go out for days , myself and husband, his two sisters, brother in law, baby newphew and his wife, as long he was able we did things, he had an aston martin driving experience. He and his wife had a few days being spoiled at Gleneagles. We all went to ~Aviemore for the weekend a fortnight before he died. I would say do as much as your partner can, take photos and videos and make sure you catch some of them talking. That gives me some joy even though it makes me cry hearing his voice. I dont think you can cope with this you endure the journey the highs and lows and eventually when the time comes, learn how to live a life without them. Still not got that hang of that, still cant really accept that I shall never see my son again, he used to pop in everyday on his way home from work. So this may not be of any help to you, but get all the help you can, the MacMillan nurses are so good, the Maggie centres are very helpful and have an amazing aura of calm about them. Take heart my friends in this battle against this evil disease. love to you all.xx lesliexxx
I thank you for your response! We never did have time to do all that stuff as from the time he presented to now has been so short a time and with me also being disabled we have not been able to do much! His pain has been so unbelievable from the start! I haven't really had anytime to adjust! He went down hill so fast!
I am so sorry to read your post. My heart goes out to you. Hope you have family and friends to support you. No words to make anything better but love from a stranger.xx
Hi Eeyore74, bereavement is one of the most painful things you can go through and, as many people on here say, there's no time limit for grief.
I'm so sorry to hear how tough things are for you right now. I wondered if you'd like to start a discussion in the section of our forum that deals with Coping with loss? You'll find many other people there who have lost a loved one, and who will be able to empathise intirely with what you're going through.
Loving and Grieving are such personal journies and seem to take many different timescales. I lost hubby two years ago (January 2015) and know I will always miss him. The early loss felt a very painful time and I could only cope by keeping very busy most of the time and having the support of a couple of very close friends and the mutual support of children/grandchildren. I shared my feelings on the forum (joined when hubby was on his cancer journey) and gained valuable insight into the fact that there does not appear to be a right or wrong way to feel and that it would take as long as necessary to take little steps forward. After about six months I began to take those mini steps and still feel I am doing that.
Hope you can find support through the forum as Moderator Helen has suggested. Just writing down how I felt seemed to bring a little release. Be kind to yourself. Jules
