Hi Hassan_Iqbal2812, 

I just wanted to say I'm so sorry to hear that your dad has only been given months to live, and I also want to say that there's nothing I can really say to make you feel better. I wish there was something we could do to make ourselves feel better in this situation, but sometimes life is not easy. :( I can relate to what you have said as my dad has Stage 4 Prostate Cancer, and I am in university as well. I'm a little older than you, but I also want my dad to see my graduation, see my children, see me get married, but to know that may not be a reality, it can be very heartbreaking. Do you have any friends or family you can talk to about this? I don't know if you would be open to it, but i have found that speaking to a therapist has helped me a lot in this situation. I just wanted you to know you aren't alone in feeling this way, and please feel free to write on here at anytime. 

Oh, I also wanted to say that I know your dad won't want you to be sad, maybe try to do something, or try to find atleast one thing in the day that makes you happy. I know right now things don't look promising, but maybe you can try to find one thing that makes you happy for your dad. I know your dad loves you, and I'm sure he's an amazing man.

I just want to say you are a very amazing induvidual, to be going through this aswell i constanly think that he's going to get better and just walk out of the hospital, and we can go back to normal like how life was pre - cancer. I love him to bits but when i see him, i see the same person who was there for me all of the times when i was down and he lifted me up, and now hes weak fragile and every single damn time i look at him i just start to start to cry and i cant help it, i even see my mum welling up in her eyes and then i get sad. How do i get past this. My mum tells me that time is great healer but some times i dont think it is. I know i have to be strong but its so hard not to think of all those times, it doesnt help every where i look i somehow link it back to him. 

Everything you where talking about is what i am going through you sum it so well, its like waves it just suddenly hits you i really do hope that you and i and everybody in your family and everyone goign through this can find peace. At this moment in time i find it so diffcult to even function today.

Thank you, this is definitely the hardest thing I have had to go through, as I'm sure you can relate! I think your mom is right as you have only just heard this news about your dad only having a couple months to live. Right now it would probably feel very raw, as I remember when my dad was first dignosed I couldn't stop crying, but now it sort of comes in waves. At first I couldn't even look at him without crying. I know it's not the exact same situation, and living in your situation, it's a lot easier for me to say these words, but sometimes we have to remember that with time everything will be okay. Maybe not okay in the way we want them to be, but okay in the sense that we actually will live through this. I just hope that you're able to spend as much time as you can with your dad right now. I know he only wants his family to be happy, and just making him as comfortbale as possible would be such a nice thing for him. I know you are doing whatever you can for your dad, but try to also take care fo yourself. I know it's hard, but I find if I take care of myself it's easier to help my family. If you ever need to talk, we are always here. I hope what I was trying to say makes sense, I know losing a parent isn't really something we can get over, or that still affects us in the future, but our parents would want us to try to make the best of our lives while we can. Sending my thoughts your way to you and your family.