Hi folks.
This may be kind of long but I could really do with some help and advice. A month ago, my partner's mother found out she had a tumor in her bladder and as it has spread, she needs to have her entire bladder (and uterus) removed in March. It's even more difficult as my partner is only 22 years old living at home with her.. and it's in Sweden. So I come to you to ask for help.. I can't be there for him (I only can visit as I was there 2 weeks ago) and it's getting worse for him. He has three older sisters who don't really help him (instead one even makes him even more stressed by nagging at him all the time) even though they should without him even having to ask. Today his mother just snapped.. started screaming at him like she was wild... I don't know if it was the stress, the fact that her husband isn't there for her.. or her condition (she's having her last chemo in a week's time before the operation). My partner is going down South to stay at a friend's for a week as today just broke him.. I heard him crying on the phone and it broke me too. He feels bad, thinking he's abandoning her even though he needs to get away to calm down. I feel even worse because I don't know how to be there for him, my mum just says to stay strong and simply be there for him but it's breaking him. He cooks and cleans for her everyday, does the shopping and can spend hours doing errands (including errands for his sister...) He has so much on his shoulders and I just need to know what he can do.. what I can do for him. He can be proud at times and even feels bad asking for help when he really needs it being the youngest sibling and unlike his sisters, doesn't have to see their mother like this everyday. Please help me, I need advice. Thank you.
