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my brother terminally ill

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hi everyone im new to this so please bare with me

my brother is terimally ill hes only 39 he has cancer in this glands all over his body in his liver and throat his doctor told him

the cancer hes got you normally see in men over 60.

i know we dont have much time left with him so making as many memories as possible.

i feel so angry at the world and keep thinking why him.is this normal.

ive tried talking to my friends but i dont have anyone that can realate to how i am feeling.

it would be lovley to hear back from someone

 

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    Hi Sambo I'm really sorry about your brother. It's no age at all is it. It's perfectly normal to be angry and think like that. My brother in law is 39 and has only just been diagnosed with a neuroendoctrine cancer. Like your brother, it had spread too. He and my sister have a young daughter together. He is starting chemo next week hopefully. Not sure if it will work, but just hoping and praying it does. It's a terrible thing to have to watch loved ones suffer with this terrible illness. All we can do is be there for them, giving our time and love. Thinking of you
  • Offline in reply to nicky74

    hiya nicky i hope this finds you well. its good that i'm not the only one feeling like this.

    my brother has gone though chemo/radiotherpy. which both had worked for a while.

    yes its a terrible going through this feeling so alone and nobody gets where im coming from. thinking of you as well

    im here if you need to talk anytime . ive sent you a  friends request i hope you dont mind

    looking forward to speaking with you soon

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    So sorry to hear about your brother. And so young too, so awful and sad. You keep making those memories with your brother, treasure each and every one of them. Take pictures, so you can look back and treasure those memories. The feeling of 'why him?' Is totally normal. And it is true...why him? When there are so many people out there who are horrible walking the streets. I guess we will never really know. I often feel the sake way. My dad has stage 4 incurable bowel cancer which has spread to his lungs and liver, he was diagnosed 2 years in April. I'm 27, I find it a struggle having someone to talk to as friends don't really understand. They try to sympathise but after a few minutes they've forgotten and moved on, where as we never do x 

  • Offline in reply to Butterfly89

    I've sent you a friends request I hope you don't mind 

    so we can have a talk on there 

    x

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